← home
about
my name is katya ungerman, but i write under the name
katherine dee. my username is almost always default_friend
or default.friend.
i'm a writer and internet ethnographer. i mostly write about the internet but i also dabble in
enchantment , spirituality, the philosophy
of technology, and, sometimes, medicine. i'm the tech
correspondent at the spectator and a staff critic at tablet.
for the last 5 years, i've been interviewing people about
how they use the internet. you can read those interviews
here .
questions people ask me
what is american dreamland?
i co-host american dreamland ,
a coast-to-coast-am-inspired call-in show about the intersection of magic,
the paranormal, and technology.
what do you mean when you say the internet is fairyland?
a foreign country with its own etiquette, altered time, binding
bargains, distorted mirrors, and paths back home. the
rules for travelers are here.
is your work political?
no!! the biggest misconception about me. i know there's no such thing
as a “view from nowhere” but also i am not particularly
partisan. i am happy to hear anyone out.
where should i start reading?
start with the
internet as the astral plane , then
your
phone isn't a drug. it's a portal to the otherworld.
why so many names?
it's a long story, but mostly an artifact of starting my writing
career online, when handles and pseudonyms were an ordinary part
of life. katya ungerman is my name, katherine dee is the name i
publish under, and default_friend is the username that followed
me from platform to platform.
do you speak or consult?
yes! happily. let's chat. more about consulting →
last updated: september 4, 2026, from the computer room.
← home
read me or work with me
publications explore a piece what i saw coming work & appearances let's talk ↗
step inside a piece
follow the links, enter the rooms, and see how the world of a piece fits together.
publications
2026 — jerry
springer, america's ringmaster (the dispatch)
new!
2026 — the
lost art of role-playing (tablet)
2026 — ‘i'm
in love with a 2d character’ (the spectator)
2026 — why
does tiktok hype extreme violence? (the spectator)
2026 — the
rise of mediated murder (the spectator)
2026 — freezing
in boca raton, florida (the dispatch)
2026 — we
are sliding back into the middle ages (the new york
times)
2026 — how
we all became numb (the spectator)
2026 — in
defense of tween screen time (the wall street journal; published under katya ungerman)
2026 — the
new power of cryptid belief (the spectator)
2026 — heated
rivalry, fanfic, and privacy (gq)
2026 — uninvited
eyes (tablet)
2026 — my
father gave me the internet (the spectator)
2025 — the
trad movement is sputtering. here's what comes next.
(gq)
2024–25 — egirl 001 ,
a 32-page full-color history of the e-girl, 1982–2024
(2dcloud / metalabel)
2026 — “the illusions of novelty,” in be not conformed:
rené girard at the nexus of athens, jerusalem, and silicon valley ,
edited by luke burgis (catholic university of america press)
2025 — the
internet is fairyland; stop calling your phone a drug
(the new york times)
2025 — how
the internet made the far-right (persuasion)
2025 — on
the young republicans' group chat (politico magazine)
2025 — internet
overexposure syndrome (comment)
2025 — short
video isn’t just rotting our brains. it’s rewiring them. (the dispatch)
2025 — the
people who think they were born into the wrong race
(pirate wires)
2025 — the
youtubers preaching human extinction (pirate wires)
2025 — the
internet as the astral plane. the internet as fairyland
(default.blog)
2025 — the
people who fall in love with chatbots (pirate wires)
2025 — inside
the erectile dysfunction–industrial complex
(the free press)
2025 — wokeness
was never a religion (the dispatch)
2024 — our
very online politics is just around the corner
(the dispatch)
2024 — no,
culture is not stuck (wisdom of crowds)
2024 — adam
lanza fan art (tablet)
2023 — afterglow , fiction (the end )
2025 — the billionaire, the influencer and their baby (wisdom of crowds)
2023 — selling
the drama (the new atlantis)
2023 — we
are all fictosexuals now (unherd)
2023 — lesbians
who only date men (default.blog)
2023 — we
need to talk about extreme antinatalism (unherd)
2023 — computer
love (comment)
2023 — the
post-human economy (tablet)
2023 — the
humans who live as lab rats (the free press)
2023 — among
the spiritual psychotics (tablet)
2021 — meet
replika, your new a.i. best friend (unherd)
2025 — how online rage bait made the battle of the sexes a war of attrition (washington examiner)
2024 — why more women will have ai boyfriends than men will have ai girlfriends (washington examiner)
2023 — all the generational stereotypes are wrong, except that big one (washington examiner)
2023 — review of flawless: lessons in looks and culture from the k-beauty capital (washington examiner)
2023 — hags by victoria smith, reviewed (washington examiner)
2023 — most reporters are internet culture reporters who don’t know it yet (washington examiner)
2023 — outer banks is a pioneer in moodboard tv (washington examiner)
2023 — shrinking can’t seem to find itself (washington examiner)
2023 — jesse eisenberg directs a movie about liberal neurosis (washington examiner)
2022 — aaron carter, 1987–2022 (washington examiner)
2022 — the age of abercrombie (washington examiner)
2022 — a fairer sex? (washington examiner)
2022 — margaret atwood and the perils of being too famous (washington examiner)
2022 — is gen z ok? (washington examiner)
2021 — the troubles with belfast (washington examiner)
2021 — the eyes of tammy faye and the america we’ve lost (washington examiner)
2021 — indian matchmaking and the agony of choice (washington examiner)
2021 — satire in the city (washington examiner)
AUDIO / 2024
first time caller: an art bell tribute
a 50-minute audio documentary on art bell’s legacy, with leah prime,
john steiger, and ong’s hat creator joseph matheny. produced with
taylor mcmahon.
listen on default.blog →
apple podcasts
/ spotify
/ youtube
AUDIO / 2024
an audio reading of my tablet feature, followed by a conversation
with producer taylor mcmahon about reporting the story and what
happens when writing encounters a hostile online audience.
listen on default.blog →
what i saw coming
i follow small online worlds until their ideas become everyone’s conversation. here are the dated pieces, the threads i kept following, and the later moments that made the stakes clear.
work with me →
work & appearances
invite me to talk about mediated intimacy,
fictosexuality, pseudonymity, girls online, fandom, and how online worlds become real.
get in touch →
internet real life
in 2024–25, i co-created, curated, and hosted two cohorts of
internet real life
with peter limberg: an interview series and “inverse course”
looking for an internet-realist position beyond naïve optimism
and reflexive pessimism. guest presentations and q&as were followed
by private, unrecorded collective inquiry.
the two cohorts and guest talks
season one · november 8–december 6, 2024
season two · april 4–25, 2025
selected talks
finding our own resilience
aspen ideas: climate, chicago — july 21, 2026. workshop with ripley stroud.
llms as djinn?
human directed futures: dsro, san francisco — november 2025.
“on claude 9”: examining emotional and romantic attachment to ai assistants
talk, 10th international congress on love & sex with robots (lsr2025), uqam, montréal.
objects and anime characters of our affection
future commerce visions summit at the museum of modern art, new york — june 10, 2025. on fictosexuality, objectum sexuality, and how both intersect with ai companions.
the digital sexual revolution
creator and host, a live debate on mediated sex produced with substack at teatro zinzanni, chicago — september 16, 2025.
imitation, innovation, and heresy in the digital public sphere
novitāte: new models of thought and desire, washington, d.c. — november 3, 2023.
who you really are: a conversation about pseudonymity
coindesk consensus, austin — june 11, 2022. on pseudonymity, anonymity, and identity online.
selected interviews & conversations
before this
before journalism, i worked as a copywriter for apple support and led internal
editorial work at tesla; worked as a strategist at praytell, writing for
brands and researching internet trends and film projects; ran community at
repl.it ;
and researched archival media for pbs/wgbh, including
american experience: the great war ,
NOVA , and frontline .
i have a bfa in dramatic writing from nyu tisch. in a past life,
i wrote award-winning plays and screenplays.
← home
WAIT FOR MY BOOK TO SEE
rules for travelers , from the old
surveys:
never give your true name; travel under a
use-name. names have power there. this is why you have a
username.
eat nothing they offer, and accept no
cookie you cannot account for. those who eat are bound to
return. (the persephone clause.)
time runs differently inside. oisin rode
home from tir na nog and three hundred years had passed.
check a clock when you surface.
cold iron keeps them off — but your
machine is silicon, copper, and glass. you carry no
protection.
beware the glamour: their old word for
making a thing look better than it is, and also
ours.
call them the good people, for they are
listening. (yeats records the custom in the celtic
twilight .)
those who come back, come back changed.
(the changeling problem.)
← home
contact
you can commission my writing, invite me to give a talk/lead a workshop,
or hire me for something else. just book a time here .
consulting, research, and cultural forecasting →
email:
katherine@default.blog
discord: default_friend#7482
for the last 5 years, i've been interviewing
people about how they use the internet. read the
case studies .
← back inside
the pool
day / clear
/\ /\
________________ / \_____/ \
/______________________________\
| | screened porch | |
| | table [door] | |
|___|__________________________|_|
slide ____________________________
\ / ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ /|
\ / ~ ~ ~ ~ POOL ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ / |
/___________________________/ |
| blue tile | /
|___________________________|/
___________
/ ~ SPA ~/|
/__________/ |
|__________|/
← home
my computer room, 1997
click objects in the room. the Fairyland map is always visible.
whatever happened to the open web... le sigh...!!!!
+--------------------------------------------------------------------+
| [ plaid valance ] [ plaid valance ] |
| | | | | | | | | | books / shells | | | | | | | | | |
| | sliding glass | -------------- | window blinds | |
| | palm leaves | +----------------+ |
| | | .----------. .--------. +FAIRYLAND+ |
| | | | CRT | | 14.4k | | o--*--o | |
| | | '----------' '--------' | / | \ | |
| | | ___|__________|____________________ +--------+ |
| | | | WHITE BUILT-IN DESK | |
| | | | [drawer] [drawer] [door] [door] | |
| +--------------+ |_________ ________________[____][____]______| |
| tiny table / \ | |
| +--------+ |chair| | toy gator |
| | | \___/ | |
| +--------+ | |
| [ floral crib ] _|_ beige carpet |
+--------------------------------------------------------------------+
[ unlabeled tape ] [ the new World Wide Web ] [ faeries field guide ] [ FAIRYLAND MAP ]
14.4k modem, family CRT, white cabinets, sliding glass doors, plaid valances.
floral bed, CRT, one pink boombox, compact radio-cassette player, Tamagotchi, Fairyland map.
★ WELCOME TO MY HOME PAGE ★
about me | cool links |
e-mail me | links page
default_friend's corner of the web
NEW! now playing: Aqua — Aquarium
visit the Art Bell tape archive and browse my
cool links .
UNDER CONSTRUCTION
[•_•]
001847
this page is always under construction
ANA NGLINCOLN / SIDE A
best viewed at 800 × 600 · 56K · first snow / Mass Pike crawling
· tamagotchi: ♥♥♥
floral bed, CRT, one pink boombox, compact radio-cassette player, Tamagotchi, Fairyland map.
floral bed, early Gateway desktop with a CRT monitor and tower, Pine Crest sweatshirt, Enya CD, FRUiTS no. 43.
floral bed, early Gateway desktop with a CRT monitor and tower, Pine Crest sweatshirt, Enya CD, FRUiTS no. 43.
DEFAULTFRIEND.NET version 2.0
HOME // JOURNAL // MEDIA // LINKS // CONTACT
signal / self / avatar
PROFILE / BIO
default_friend // online mood: awake journal: LiveJournal
MEDIA DOWNLOADS
chobits_wallpaper.jpg manga_scans/ enya_sleeve_scan.jpg
LATEST UPDATE // 02.12.02
the portal stays open after i leave the desk. browse the saved links.
561 / DSL / shutters stacked in the garage
◆ENTER ALPHAVILLE
FLASH 6 REQUIRED · 800 × 600 · speakers on
floral bed, early Gateway desktop with a CRT monitor and tower, Pine Crest sweatshirt, Enya CD, FRUiTS no. 43.
floral bed, Dell laptop, Pine Crest sweatshirt, Enya CD, FRUiTS no. 43.
floral bed, white MacBook, Kindle, one lava lamp, Fairyland map.
my media
✿
watching: interview with the vampire
reading: the alphaville herald
561 · 92F · A/C humming
sidebar widgets BETA Wi-Fi: excellent
Art Bell archive: 47 files
avatars blogs folklore web
floral bed, 2012 laptop, smartphone, books, radiator, fire escape, Fairyland map.
dashboard inbox drafts
defaultfriend · text the internet is not a tool. it is a place.
defaultfriend · photo
♡
arthur reaction image folder: 38 files
#arthur #chobits #internet reblog · like
audio post ▶ this american life
metrocard: $2.25 · service change after midnight
Bell, Apple, Atomic, Boojum; the half-painted green wall; books and dolls everywhere. Meatcake Bible and the Brave New Books tote are still here.
defaultfriend / essays on internet culture
A flat-color editorial illustration of a reader moving through a digital feed
FEATURED ESSAY the internet is a place field notes from the people living inside it.
FIELD NOTE the whole house is an archive nothing gets thrown away if it might explain the internet later.
floral bed, 2020 laptop, video call, mask, sanitizer, desert window, Fairyland map.
floral bed, 2022 MacBook, vertical blinds, Fairyland map.
INTERNET ARCHAEOLOGY · DIGITAL FOLKLORE · NIGHT RADIO · INTERNET ARCHAEOLOGY
ESSAYS AUDIO FAIRYLAND LINKS
old web new ghosts 408 // NORTHBOUND
01 / FIELD NOTE the old web is still under this one.
02 / PINNED AUDIO ▶ hermitix
03 / STATUS watching interview with the vampire
408 / northbound train · newsletter tab open
floral bed, current MacBook, two baby bottles, one sippy cup, Southwest accent, Fairyland map.
A restrained line diagram connecting writer, archive, agent, and reader
writer archive
agent reader
current signal path / no dashboard required
screen MacBook
desk two baby bottles, one sippy cup, field notes
room my house in Rogers Park, floral bedspread, Southwest accent
~:o:~
[ fax ]
open the Fairyland map field copy: 1997
enter the MUD →
on the shelf
data smog
by david shenk (1997)
information overload, distraction, personalization, and the loss of common public knowledge.
the shelf changes with the year, following widely read and influential books about technology and online life. the reading log lives at
storygraph .
LIVE FROM 1997
april 23, 1997 — nanotechnology with charles ostman
entering the computer room tunes the radio; if your browser blocks it, press play.
episode notes at the art bell archive
cool sites , circa
1997
links may open a period snapshot, surviving archive, or the nearest historical or working page.
← home
things hidden in the computer room
Select a file below, or find it by clicking an object in the computer room.
1988 / ana ng
1994 / humdog
1997 / tamagotchi
2002 / alphaville
2007 / port kar
2012 / phone
2017 / GIF-making Repl
2020 / mask